I’m an expert in confrontation.
I am comfortable saying what I mean and asking for what I want. I’m direct. In a good way! I’ve always been a direct person but, when I was younger, I got a lot of push back.
It was hard being a direct person in an indirect world. I asked a lot of questions, which often seemed to annoy people. As a result, all too often, I kept my directness at bay. Living that way was fine(ish)…until it wasn’t. About 10 years ago, a few life-changing events shifted my perspective and I became a fearless communicator! I am now able to be direct and ask as many questions as I need without being concerned about how others might react.
Prior to the shift, I spent two decades working in corporate America. From the very beginning, I disliked corporate culture, but kept going back (sound familiar?). I watched everyone around me suffer, in part, because they were scared of speaking up. While being more direct than most, I also felt stifled.
Throughout my entire coaching career, the word confrontation came up repeatedly. So many clients said they are bad at or scared of confrontation. They “cared too much about what others think.” It was as if the universe was telling me it was time to uncover my own blocks so I could help others do the same. So I did.
What happened? I became unoffendable! I recognized how much of myself I had abandoned in stifling myself. My fear kept me small. I learned that, in order to be an expert in confrontation, you can’t care about what someone says back to you. Being unoffendable is the secret sauce.
My work with clients is very meaningful. I partner with people who are stuck in a mundane, unrewarding cycle to help break them free. The result? They get what they want, not just what they think they can get. In working through their blocks, they move toward a truly authentic life they can live on their terms.
My two most exciting superpowers are being a fearless communicator and a strong energy reader. The two together enable my ability to simplify my clients’ thoughts and feelings almost immediately. I decode the bullshit, and made-up stories that get in their way. And with all of that, I teach clients how to use confrontation to their benefit.